Curiosity killed the Kit?

[kitanzi]

I was rereading through some old journal entries - I do that sometimes. Anyhow, I found the tempest in a teapot that the crush meme stirred up, and it made me curious.

If you have a crush on someone, do you tell them? Do you not? Do you tell mutual friends? Strangers who would have no idea who you're talking about? Does it make a difference if you think it's reciprocated? If so, how sure do you need to be? And if you think it isn't, do you nurture it, ignore it, or try to kill it off?

I'm curious, particularly because this meme included ex-crushes and I know a lot of people found that unknown people had ex-crushes. What does it take to turn a crush into an ex-crush? Apparent hopelessness, embarassment, disillusionment, nasty behavior from the crushee? (so to speak!)

I know I've historically been unlikely to tell anyone about a crush, but then historically I've had a fine habit of getting crushes almost exclusively on people bound to think I'm the wrong gender or the wrong kind of person, or else they're someone I should stay firmly at armslength from. Maybe for that reason I've had an awful lot of crushes just die a natural death after enough time, and a few I've firmly squelched for one reason or another. But what about the rest of you?

Comments

[maedbh7.livejournal.com]

Re the meme; I initially listed all my ex-SOs as ex-crushes, which isn't entirly accurate. Then, when I outted myself, I noted that as a correction. That's really the only thing that makes me go from crushed to ex-crush, the process of dating. The other thing is them turning into an asshat; though then I tend to scrub my mind free of ever having crushed on them at all.

That said, I crush on people all the time. I spend alot of time heartbroken too, so I don't recommend crushing at all really. And I have this annoying habit of telling people before they are really ready tohear it. This has scared off any great number of people. SO, I guess, in that light, it acts as an interesting filter for keeping the disinterested out of my life. Sometimes, that's a good thing, even if I hate it as it happens.

Enough of a reply for you? I could say more, but I have an evil earworm in my head that isn't helping any. -H...

[kitanzi.livejournal.com]

Oh, it's a very good reply. You and I have even discussed this to some extent, in talking about how we have such a hard time knowing if someone's really flirting or not. :)