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Curiosity killed the Kit?
Feb. 6th, 2004 04:44 pmI was rereading through some old journal entries - I do that sometimes. Anyhow, I found the tempest in a teapot that the crush meme stirred up, and it made me curious.
If you have a crush on someone, do you tell them? Do you not? Do you tell mutual friends? Strangers who would have no idea who you're talking about? Does it make a difference if you think it's reciprocated? If so, how sure do you need to be? And if you think it isn't, do you nurture it, ignore it, or try to kill it off?
I'm curious, particularly because this meme included ex-crushes and I know a lot of people found that unknown people had ex-crushes. What does it take to turn a crush into an ex-crush? Apparent hopelessness, embarassment, disillusionment, nasty behavior from the crushee? (so to speak!)
I know I've historically been unlikely to tell anyone about a crush, but then historically I've had a fine habit of getting crushes almost exclusively on people bound to think I'm the wrong gender or the wrong kind of person, or else they're someone I should stay firmly at armslength from. Maybe for that reason I've had an awful lot of crushes just die a natural death after enough time, and a few I've firmly squelched for one reason or another. But what about the rest of you?
If you have a crush on someone, do you tell them? Do you not? Do you tell mutual friends? Strangers who would have no idea who you're talking about? Does it make a difference if you think it's reciprocated? If so, how sure do you need to be? And if you think it isn't, do you nurture it, ignore it, or try to kill it off?
I'm curious, particularly because this meme included ex-crushes and I know a lot of people found that unknown people had ex-crushes. What does it take to turn a crush into an ex-crush? Apparent hopelessness, embarassment, disillusionment, nasty behavior from the crushee? (so to speak!)
I know I've historically been unlikely to tell anyone about a crush, but then historically I've had a fine habit of getting crushes almost exclusively on people bound to think I'm the wrong gender or the wrong kind of person, or else they're someone I should stay firmly at armslength from. Maybe for that reason I've had an awful lot of crushes just die a natural death after enough time, and a few I've firmly squelched for one reason or another. But what about the rest of you?
